BEE YOURSELF COUNSELLING

The main reason people seek counselling for grief and loss is due to the death of a loved one.  I have a passion to normalise grief and loss.  I believe society still has such a long way to go  when it comes to helping grieving people.  You might be graced with a couple of weeks to "get over" your grief.  In reality, we grieve for a lifetime but the nature of our grief changes.

I find demystifying the emotion of grief helps clients immensely.  It can seem like such a BIG and OVERWHELMING emotion but in reality it is an emotion like any other that needs to be given attention, understanding and respect.

I have recently experienced grief and loss on a personal level so I "get it" personally and professionally.

Grief is caused by loss.  Below are just a few examples of other losses that may cause you to grieve:

• Divorce/separation
• Illness or injury 
• Trauma
• Loneliness
• Lack of meaning/purpose

If you're anxious you're not alone.  It's incredibly common and can be caused for a number of reasons:

• Environmental factors - e.g. stress at home, work, school, in relationships
• Trauma (childhood trauma, domestic violence, accident)
• Genetic/biological factors 
• Psychological (patterns of thinking)

The way I work with anxiety is different for each client, because each client is different!  However, it often starts by changing your relationship with anxiety.

Feel unsure of yourself?

Here are my definitions of self-esteem:
 

• You feel safe in your own skin
• You have healthy boundaries - ability to let in what helps and keep out what doesn’t
• You feel safe to be yourself around others even if they disagree with you
• You want to try new things even if you know you may fail (because you know it's not really failing!)
• You want to enjoy your life, not endure it
• You form close relationships while honouring your own desires and needs
• You listen to your feelings
• You know you have areas for improvement but you don't judge yourself harshly for this
• You listen to your own needs and don't feel guilty for having them
• You have the ability to live in the moment and enjoy the simple things in life
• You have peace of mind
• You have a sense of ease and trust in the universe/God. You know God/the universe has your back at all times, even when bad things happen